Olalekan Daniju, a victim of a violent assault
inflicted by his wife,Bimbola Ajetumobi Daniju, a
staff of Ecobank Plc., Agege Motor Road, has
narrated his ordeal in the hands of the lady.
Daniju who almost had his penis severed after a
squabble with his wife has refused to press charges
against her on the grounds that she is five months
pregnant.
The fight had reportedly started after Mrs. Daniju
flew into a rage accusing her husband of not
providing adequately for the family’s needs.
In this interview with Gazelle News, the injured
husband narrates his side of the story. Read below:
WHO IS BIMBO AJETUMOBI DANIJU TO YOU?
She is my wife. I don’t want to say, she used to be
my wife.
WHEN DID YOU GET MARRIED?
We got married on 18th December 2010,
Wednesday the 18th was our third anniversary.
HOW DID THE FIGHT THAT RESULTED IN YOUR
INJURY START?
It started two days before the day of the injury.
When we woke up on that Saturday morning, I told
her not to put on the generator, because the fuel in
it is dried up, and I was not having much money on
me, that I will go somewhere to get money. I am a
gospel artist and a guy called me to come and
collect money for the sales of some CDs. I was
banking on that money to take care of us through
the weekend. She had already told me that she
doesn’t have money and I know that she only fights
me when she doesn’t have money and I told her not
to worry that God will take care of the weekend and
she later called me that she found Indomie and
Sardine in the house that she would make it pending
when I get home. I pack her cloths, pants and all
sort to wash, because I have always been washing
our cloths.
After washing, she came and told me I really tried
because the cloths were plenty, she told me that
she had cooked the Indomie, saying she and the
baby had eaten theirs and the little portion that
remains was what I eat before going out.
When I came back two hours later, she told me she
was hungry and she wanted to eat wheat and white
soup, I went to buy the food for her and she ate it.
Thirty minute later again, she told me she was
hungry and I went to go and buy bread and butter
again.
The car had a little problem which I fixed by myself
after doing that I went inside and I saw her having a
chat with her family and she was complaining that I
want to kill her with hunger and she has not eaten. I
was really upset with her that why does she like to
expose me like this? Her family does not know that
I’m trying my best. Despite the fact that I lost my
job, I am still doing my bit, why don’t you just
appreciate the little I’m doing for now.
She started her usual series of curse that she rains
on me whenever we quarrel. She even extended it
to my family members and this made me return the
curse because I don’t like people cursing my family
members.
I decided to go out and as I was going out her
brother came in. He didn’t even greet, he went
inside and gave her N1,000.
I left her and went out. I came back later that
Saturday evening and gave her the money I came
back with in spite of the fact that she started her
problems again when I came in.
I had to go outside and service the generator
myself because I don’t have any money again to
give to the generator man.
As I was servicing the generator, the light when off
and when she complained. I told her not to complain
that I bought fuel for the generator.
When I came inside the house she was feeling
guilty because I was looking really pale and rough
and I had not had a bath that day and she was
asking why I was looking like that and if I had eaten
I told her that I have not eaten.
She asked what I will eat and I told her not to worry
that as long as she and my son had eaten, I’m ok.
When I went outside, my sister gave me N500 to go
and get something to eat and I went to buy rice. I
brought the food inside the house.
That brought another round of cursing because she
felt I was lying to her when I said I don’t have
money. Again, she cursed my family members and I
responded in kind. That was the stage we were
went to sleep that night and I thought it had ended
there.
The following morning, which is a Sunday, I woke
her to ask what she would be wearing to church so
that I could iron it but she didn’t reply. I picked up
my son’s cloth, ironed it, bathed him, had my bath
and left both of them at home and went to church. In
between the service, I came home to check on
them and I met her cooking, I even joked that thank
God there’s something for them to eat.
I went back to church and after the service I was I
hungry I bought bread and beans to eat and I got
inside, my boy told me he also wanted to eat bread
and I gave it to him.
When she learnt that I gave the boy bread, she said
I didn’t bother to ask her where she got money to
prepare the rice that she ate calling me several
unprintable names.
I responded again and this time it was a huge
mistake. She just came near me, carried the plate
of beans and pour the food on my head. She held
my tie shouting and cursing me at the same time.
I managed to extricate myself from her grip and ran
out. My sister, she nearly suffocate me with the tie.
She pursued me and broke a plastic bucket on my
head but I continued to run. She picked up a bottle,
broke it and threatened to stab me with it. This is a
woman that is about five month pregnant.
I ran to my sister’s shop and tried to involve her but
she stayed out of the matter because they all know
that she is rude, stubborn and violent.
There was a day she and her brothers came here
with thugs from Ojuelegba they wanted to beat up
everybody here. She has chased me on the street
with all sort of dangerous things. I don’t really know
what she wants to achieve with all this but that day,
her mum came, my mum’s sister came also and
they tried to resolve the whole thing.
I saw my mum’s sister off and before I came back,
my mother-in-law had taken my son away and I
was like we are trying to solve one issue and you
are trying to cause another problem. I told her that if
by 8pm that evening my child is not back home, she
would not find it funny.
I said that to make her know that I was serious but
she said that there’s nothing I can do. She left the
house before 8pm and came back 30 mins later
without my son. She took her bath and went to
sleep I went to my sister and told her I am going to
my mother-in-law’s house to get my child but my
family ask me not to go there. At that time, I was
tired, confused and hungry. I picked up my laptop
but while I was trying to watch a movie I fell asleep
in the sitting room.
She woke me up at about 2am. I was in a pair of
boxer shorts. She told me that it is either I kill her or
she kills me and within seconds she had torn my
shorts. This was not surprising anyway as she had
torn many of my cloths in the past.
She said ‘I am going to kill you this morning. You
think I am joking’. The whole thing happened so fast
I just felt her hand in holding my penis, and the next
thing was blood flowing. I started shouting and
crying for her to take me to the hospital.
She said ‘hospital ke, that’s where you are going to
die today’ and that was the last time I saw her. I
don’t know how she left the house at that time of
the night. She changed her cloth, took a big bag and
left, only for us to see her two days later at the
police station.
There and then, I decided I cannot continue living
with her, she could just decide to put poison in my
food and kill me one day.
It’s only person that’s alive that can explain
anything. She could just poison me and cook up a
story just like she did at the police station where
she told the police officers that I woke her up at
2am and started hitting her almost beating her to
death and the officers clap for her for a lovely story.
The officers ask how come I did all that and she
had the strength to run away and she didn’t run to
the hospital, that is, someone that was almost being
beaten to death should go to the hospital and there
was no doctor’s report. The person you injured
brought his own medical report, we could see that
the injury was bandaged.
The officers told her that there’s no mark on her to
signify being beaten, she replied that she didn’t go
to any hospital because there was no mark on her
she also claim that she didn’t use any knife but that
she used her finger nails to scratch my penis.
ARE YOU GOING TO PRESS CHARGES AGAINST
HER?
No, I don’t want to press any charges.
WHY?
She is pregnant. I am looking at my son, there is no
way I would press charges that it would not affect
him. As it is, she could be locked up for up to three
years or more and I don’t want my baby to be born
in prison. I am not a violent person coupled with the
fact that I have a name to protect, put all this
together and she is not worth it. All I want is for her
to leave me alone for good. Let us go our separate
ways and I wish her all the best.
BEFORE THIS INCIDENT, HAS SHE BEEN
SUFFERING FROM DEPRESSION?
Depression! I don’t really know, but she is a violent
person even before I married her. There was a day
she fought her elder sister and when her father
intervened she turned the fight on him, he beat her
with a belt and it was really serious. Her father had
to call me and report her, this happened when we
were planning our introduction. He beat her to the
extent that you could see the marks all over her
body. She ran away from their house, and came to
my place and I told her that she cannot stay here. I
had to go to her family house to see them and they
tried to get her to apologize all to no avail, in order
to get her to apologize to her sister, her father had
to threaten her that if she does not apologize, I
would call off the wedding and she grudgingly
apologized to them.
At the police station when she was asked to
apologize because I am not pressing charges, she
refused and the officers were surprised. When
people from the church came visiting, they had a lot
to say and none of it was good, she has virtually
quarrelled with every member of the church. Even
my pastor reminded me that he warned me not to
marry her. Before we got married, I was warned
but I felt that with time she would change. But I
have learnt in a bigger and harder way that some
people would not change.
IF SHE COMES BACK BEGGING WOULD YOU TAKE
HER BACK?
We would be friends but not as husband and wife.
We cannot live together again.
inflicted by his wife,Bimbola Ajetumobi Daniju, a
staff of Ecobank Plc., Agege Motor Road, has
narrated his ordeal in the hands of the lady.
Daniju who almost had his penis severed after a
squabble with his wife has refused to press charges
against her on the grounds that she is five months
pregnant.
The fight had reportedly started after Mrs. Daniju
flew into a rage accusing her husband of not
providing adequately for the family’s needs.
In this interview with Gazelle News, the injured
husband narrates his side of the story. Read below:
WHO IS BIMBO AJETUMOBI DANIJU TO YOU?
She is my wife. I don’t want to say, she used to be
my wife.
WHEN DID YOU GET MARRIED?
We got married on 18th December 2010,
Wednesday the 18th was our third anniversary.
HOW DID THE FIGHT THAT RESULTED IN YOUR
INJURY START?
It started two days before the day of the injury.
When we woke up on that Saturday morning, I told
her not to put on the generator, because the fuel in
it is dried up, and I was not having much money on
me, that I will go somewhere to get money. I am a
gospel artist and a guy called me to come and
collect money for the sales of some CDs. I was
banking on that money to take care of us through
the weekend. She had already told me that she
doesn’t have money and I know that she only fights
me when she doesn’t have money and I told her not
to worry that God will take care of the weekend and
she later called me that she found Indomie and
Sardine in the house that she would make it pending
when I get home. I pack her cloths, pants and all
sort to wash, because I have always been washing
our cloths.
After washing, she came and told me I really tried
because the cloths were plenty, she told me that
she had cooked the Indomie, saying she and the
baby had eaten theirs and the little portion that
remains was what I eat before going out.
When I came back two hours later, she told me she
was hungry and she wanted to eat wheat and white
soup, I went to buy the food for her and she ate it.
Thirty minute later again, she told me she was
hungry and I went to go and buy bread and butter
again.
The car had a little problem which I fixed by myself
after doing that I went inside and I saw her having a
chat with her family and she was complaining that I
want to kill her with hunger and she has not eaten. I
was really upset with her that why does she like to
expose me like this? Her family does not know that
I’m trying my best. Despite the fact that I lost my
job, I am still doing my bit, why don’t you just
appreciate the little I’m doing for now.
She started her usual series of curse that she rains
on me whenever we quarrel. She even extended it
to my family members and this made me return the
curse because I don’t like people cursing my family
members.
I decided to go out and as I was going out her
brother came in. He didn’t even greet, he went
inside and gave her N1,000.
I left her and went out. I came back later that
Saturday evening and gave her the money I came
back with in spite of the fact that she started her
problems again when I came in.
I had to go outside and service the generator
myself because I don’t have any money again to
give to the generator man.
As I was servicing the generator, the light when off
and when she complained. I told her not to complain
that I bought fuel for the generator.
When I came inside the house she was feeling
guilty because I was looking really pale and rough
and I had not had a bath that day and she was
asking why I was looking like that and if I had eaten
I told her that I have not eaten.
She asked what I will eat and I told her not to worry
that as long as she and my son had eaten, I’m ok.
When I went outside, my sister gave me N500 to go
and get something to eat and I went to buy rice. I
brought the food inside the house.
That brought another round of cursing because she
felt I was lying to her when I said I don’t have
money. Again, she cursed my family members and I
responded in kind. That was the stage we were
went to sleep that night and I thought it had ended
there.
The following morning, which is a Sunday, I woke
her to ask what she would be wearing to church so
that I could iron it but she didn’t reply. I picked up
my son’s cloth, ironed it, bathed him, had my bath
and left both of them at home and went to church. In
between the service, I came home to check on
them and I met her cooking, I even joked that thank
God there’s something for them to eat.
I went back to church and after the service I was I
hungry I bought bread and beans to eat and I got
inside, my boy told me he also wanted to eat bread
and I gave it to him.
When she learnt that I gave the boy bread, she said
I didn’t bother to ask her where she got money to
prepare the rice that she ate calling me several
unprintable names.
I responded again and this time it was a huge
mistake. She just came near me, carried the plate
of beans and pour the food on my head. She held
my tie shouting and cursing me at the same time.
I managed to extricate myself from her grip and ran
out. My sister, she nearly suffocate me with the tie.
She pursued me and broke a plastic bucket on my
head but I continued to run. She picked up a bottle,
broke it and threatened to stab me with it. This is a
woman that is about five month pregnant.
I ran to my sister’s shop and tried to involve her but
she stayed out of the matter because they all know
that she is rude, stubborn and violent.
There was a day she and her brothers came here
with thugs from Ojuelegba they wanted to beat up
everybody here. She has chased me on the street
with all sort of dangerous things. I don’t really know
what she wants to achieve with all this but that day,
her mum came, my mum’s sister came also and
they tried to resolve the whole thing.
I saw my mum’s sister off and before I came back,
my mother-in-law had taken my son away and I
was like we are trying to solve one issue and you
are trying to cause another problem. I told her that if
by 8pm that evening my child is not back home, she
would not find it funny.
I said that to make her know that I was serious but
she said that there’s nothing I can do. She left the
house before 8pm and came back 30 mins later
without my son. She took her bath and went to
sleep I went to my sister and told her I am going to
my mother-in-law’s house to get my child but my
family ask me not to go there. At that time, I was
tired, confused and hungry. I picked up my laptop
but while I was trying to watch a movie I fell asleep
in the sitting room.
She woke me up at about 2am. I was in a pair of
boxer shorts. She told me that it is either I kill her or
she kills me and within seconds she had torn my
shorts. This was not surprising anyway as she had
torn many of my cloths in the past.
She said ‘I am going to kill you this morning. You
think I am joking’. The whole thing happened so fast
I just felt her hand in holding my penis, and the next
thing was blood flowing. I started shouting and
crying for her to take me to the hospital.
She said ‘hospital ke, that’s where you are going to
die today’ and that was the last time I saw her. I
don’t know how she left the house at that time of
the night. She changed her cloth, took a big bag and
left, only for us to see her two days later at the
police station.
There and then, I decided I cannot continue living
with her, she could just decide to put poison in my
food and kill me one day.
It’s only person that’s alive that can explain
anything. She could just poison me and cook up a
story just like she did at the police station where
she told the police officers that I woke her up at
2am and started hitting her almost beating her to
death and the officers clap for her for a lovely story.
The officers ask how come I did all that and she
had the strength to run away and she didn’t run to
the hospital, that is, someone that was almost being
beaten to death should go to the hospital and there
was no doctor’s report. The person you injured
brought his own medical report, we could see that
the injury was bandaged.
The officers told her that there’s no mark on her to
signify being beaten, she replied that she didn’t go
to any hospital because there was no mark on her
she also claim that she didn’t use any knife but that
she used her finger nails to scratch my penis.
ARE YOU GOING TO PRESS CHARGES AGAINST
HER?
No, I don’t want to press any charges.
WHY?
She is pregnant. I am looking at my son, there is no
way I would press charges that it would not affect
him. As it is, she could be locked up for up to three
years or more and I don’t want my baby to be born
in prison. I am not a violent person coupled with the
fact that I have a name to protect, put all this
together and she is not worth it. All I want is for her
to leave me alone for good. Let us go our separate
ways and I wish her all the best.
BEFORE THIS INCIDENT, HAS SHE BEEN
SUFFERING FROM DEPRESSION?
Depression! I don’t really know, but she is a violent
person even before I married her. There was a day
she fought her elder sister and when her father
intervened she turned the fight on him, he beat her
with a belt and it was really serious. Her father had
to call me and report her, this happened when we
were planning our introduction. He beat her to the
extent that you could see the marks all over her
body. She ran away from their house, and came to
my place and I told her that she cannot stay here. I
had to go to her family house to see them and they
tried to get her to apologize all to no avail, in order
to get her to apologize to her sister, her father had
to threaten her that if she does not apologize, I
would call off the wedding and she grudgingly
apologized to them.
At the police station when she was asked to
apologize because I am not pressing charges, she
refused and the officers were surprised. When
people from the church came visiting, they had a lot
to say and none of it was good, she has virtually
quarrelled with every member of the church. Even
my pastor reminded me that he warned me not to
marry her. Before we got married, I was warned
but I felt that with time she would change. But I
have learnt in a bigger and harder way that some
people would not change.
IF SHE COMES BACK BEGGING WOULD YOU TAKE
HER BACK?
We would be friends but not as husband and wife.
We cannot live together again.
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